The Lone Girl With The Incredible Style


I have noticed that in my area, just about no one dresses the way that I do. And this is New York City! We are supposed to be so diverse, have so many different cultures, and tons of style! But yet it is ever so difficult for me to even remotely see anyone with something even close to resembling my style. I do like being an individual, yes, but to know there are a few others sprinkled out there would be nice too! When I was at Viva, almost everyone was from California, especially south, like near LA. I know the proximity of LA is close to Vegas, with it only being about four hours or so away. I used to live in Vegas for two years, so I am very familiar with the area. But also, most of the vintage and rockabilly scene is in southern California. I have even considered applying for jobs there, because that is more of my scene!

But I know a lot of you are dealing with the same situation asme, which is this: you love to dress in a vintage or rockabilly style, but your city or town is basically desolate of anyone that is even somewhat close to being similar to you. What is a girl to do?! Well, let me fill you in on my own experience, and you can use that as a guide for your own life and style.

First of all, don’t be afraid to dress in what you like just because everyone else around you dresses differently. To me, I see it as everyone else dresses so boring, like cookie cutters, and meanwhile, I dress fabulous, and stand out from the crowd in an amazing and unique way! You have to look at your situation in the same way. I have never gotten so many compliments on my outfits, hair, and makeup as when I have been dressing in a retro style. I have people nearly every day complimenting me, and I always get noticed on the streets or in the subway. It makes me feel good knowing that people are appreciating my efforts and the ways that I love! Naturally, there are going to be some people who think it is weird not to dress like everyone else, but think about it – they have been brain washed by all of the popular magazines and shows, and think that’s being unique. But we are truly being unique and really being ourselves and being who we want to be. We are living life our way, and damn proud of it!

I know some of you have unnatural coloured hair, but yet you have job interviews or places of work with very strict dress codes. What’s a girl to do? Why, wear a wig! That way, you can keep your colour, yet conform to the “stuffy” standards of the workplace some of you may have! Also, buy nice vintage dresses that will work at work. Nothing with too much cleavage or too much leg, or anything too “different”. I know, it sucks, but sometimes you just have to if you don’t work in a place that accepts your style. I think most of the dresses from the Stop Staring! line are fabulous for work and for play. The cut of a lot of the dresses is very professional, but yet sexy enough to go out afterwards. I hope to purchase some of their dresses soon!

Also, makeup for work should be kept still minimal – nothing too crazy for the eyes, remember. However, red lipstick is a classic and always works for any situation, work or play!

Now, the key to rocking your style, no matter where you live, despite not a soul dressing like you? CONFIDENCE! You can never have enough confidence, and the rockabilly and retro style is certainly one that demands it. Think about it – you have been confident enough to go against the grain of what all of those cookie cutter women are wearing and think is “stylish”, so go for it! Confidence is the final ingredient in any final outfit, and is what really makes it work!

I hope this helps all of you ladies out there. And always remember – you are never alone in your style, no matter where you are!

4 comments on “The Lone Girl With The Incredible Style

  1. Great advice! I live in NYC also so I know what you mean. On top of the fact that I dress vintage/rockabilly (and I’m relatively new at it) I’m African American and live in Brooklyn! lol! So needless to say I don’t see people in my style very often but oh well! lol! I can only be myself!

  2. That’s exactly what I like to hear! And at least you know one person around the area that is dealing with the same thing – me! There are more people than you think, but us vintage people are very sparse here 😦

  3. Desiree says:

    I think LaToya and I may be the same person. I’m also black, live in Brooklyn, and wear a lot of vintage stuff. It’s about finding events, guys. I keep a calendar of burlesque, retro and swing events on my blog and it’s such a good way to meet like-minded and really stylish people! And that’s not just a shameless plug; this is something I’m really passionate about.

  4. Amber says:

    Great post, I too live in NYC…far off in a suburban area of brooklyn where no one dresses like me. I don’t dress rockabilly like you do, but I do dress very different from the people in my area. Not only that but I’m also Black and very quirky which comes with a whole lot of odd stares when I’m wearing blue lipstick and an afro lol. Anyway, just wanted to say that there are people out here in NY like but you’ve just gotta look. Its awesome to stand out anyway!

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